Isaiah 55:8 (KJV)

Isaiah 55:8 (KJV)
"For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, saith the LORD."

Friday, November 7, 2025

In the Aftermath: Sorting Out the Labels Before Sorting Out the Man — Principles Before Opinions


In the Aftermath of a Most Troubled Event:
Wherein I Consider the Noise and Tumult Raised Concerning One Charlie Kirk,
and Examine the Many Rash Accusations Employed Without Measure in Our Present Age,
Together with the Curious Celebrations Both to Denigrate and to Honor;
With Some Reflections on How a Christian Ought to Discern Speech, Motives, and the Labels Men Cast Upon One Another


Charlie Kirk was a polarizing political influencer killed in Orem UT Sept 10 2025. In the immediate aftermath there was all sorts of controversy in the YouTube algorithm regarding what actually happened.  Many expressed concerns that certain aspects did not seem to make sense between what they witnessed happen on live stream and the story we all have been told afterwards. Like other high profile assassinations, theories of conspiracies abound, and will likely continue to abound. According to the official story and Indictment one man acted alone of course, and he allegedly admitted to his parents and lover that he murdered Charlie Kirk because he believed Charlie spread too much hate.

There were also hundreds if not thousands of people making posts online, either blatantly celebrating, because they too believed Charlie Kirk to be a hateful or racist person, or at the very least, implying he got what he deserved for the kind of things he said.  The most common example of his racism, that I saw, was what he said about worrying black pilots might not be qualified because of a United Airlines policy statement, requiring 50 percent of the training class be "women or people of color".

On the other hand Charlie Kirk was given a huge memorial with thousands in attendance. Part worship service part Republican political rally. He was given the medal of Freedom by President Donald J. Trump. DJT named Kirk's Birthday as a National Day of Remembrance. Some that don't want to celebrate Charlie Kirk, changed it to George Floyd Remembrance day, because strangely these two high profile figures shared the same birthday. Charlie Kirk obviously an influential person on the American political right, and George Floyd, because of the incident surrounding his death, became a icon for the left and movements such as "Black Lives Matter".
 

By some Charlie Kirk is considered a martyr. The question about whether he was a martyr or not depends on how one defines the term martyr *(and how one defines beliefs and bravery). In modern American uses of the term, martyr basically signifies anyone killed or injured that are also considered brave or heroic for sticking to their beliefs or cause despite the obvious danger. Assuming he believed what he was saying and would say these things despite the danger, perhaps the broad definition applies if the bulk of what he was saying was noble. 
The meaning of the word martyr in Christianity, since the end of the first century meant someone who willingly suffers even to the point of death rather then renouncing their faith in Jesus Christ. The word, martyr, comes from the Greek (martus) meaning 'a witness.' Originally it just carried the sense of someone willing to testify to something they have first hand knowledge of.  In this strictly Christian sense, it doesn't appear that Charlie was directly hated or killed for what he said about Jesus Christ but what he said or believed about other things.  Although his Christian beliefs may have informed his other beliefs, or his other beliefs may have informed his Christian beliefs, either way it doesn't necessarily mean he was directly killed for his Christian beliefs.

Others like ShoeOnHead just saw Charlie Kirk as a guy that said stuff, and the fact that he was killed and people celebrated really Sucks. ShoeOnHead disagreed with things he said but believed the extreme accusations are unwarranted.  This is also my basic view as well.   Of course it should also go without saying but obviously it doesn't, the extreme action of murder for disagreeing with someone is tragic!

I didn't know that much about Charlie Kirk before his murder. I caught a few of his video clips of discussions with college students, a year ago, such as this one with Vivek Ramaswamy or the one on Jubilee I didn't know anything about his organization or various_non profits he started. I knew he supported Trump and was critical of left wing policies. I didn't know how often he talked about his faith, nor anything about his specific theological positions within Christianity. I also didn't know anything about the specific controversies or backlash he had received for things that he had said. Except to the point I have seen "everyone and their mother" called names like racist (or more recently Nazi or fascist) for seemingly anything and everything. I've been amazed, confounded, and written about this for years. This is why I could totally relate when ShoeOnHead shared the list she has been keeping over the past couple years about all the things she has been called conceptually similar names for (fascist, Nazi, reactionary)

I admit I have sadly become apathetic when people call others racist. Do to extreme over use and exaggerations, I feel like I used to care but now it feels like the boy who cried wolf scenario. (Aesop fable)-Boy Who Cried Wolf)  Charlie Kirk could have been hateful or racist or just pandering to his base that are mostly racist... It could be, but I'm not buying it! Many believe certain words are racist in and of themselves and no context could ever excuse them.  I agree that context might not excuse, although it might shed valuable light into whether or not a person was being deliberately hateful or a provocateur.  In general I think it is unwise to 'quote mine' in order to make sweeping claims about another persons character. This is especially true if one claims to be a Christian. I think it does matter what someone actually meant more then what they actually said. It could be they said a bad or incorrect thing in a bad way.  It doesn't make them hateful automatically.

In a way Charlie himself admitted that the kind of thoughts he would have regarding black pilots were dirty, sinful thoughts.  
On Megyn Kelly he explained the comment in the following way:

I want to just reiterate the essence of that clip that was missed by almost everybody Jordan Peterson to his credit really picked up on it which is what I was trying to be you know very vulnerable at the audience is that DEI invites unwholesome thinking and I said I don't and I was saying in the clip that's not who I am that's not what I believe but what it does is it makes us worse version of ourselves Megan that's the whole point of what I was saying is that I now look at everything through a hyper racialized diversity quota lens because of their massive insistence to try to hit these ridiculous racial hiring quotas of course I believe anybody of any skin color can become a qualified pilot that is never been my contention I mean it's silly it's bigoted to think otherwise... I just I want to make sure this is clear because the the the the deeper Point even got cut off in that clip and that's fine is that DEI creates like bad people and that's we walk around asking questions that we otherwise wouldn't ask and I happen to say the quiet part out loud because I don't like thinking that way I feel dirty I feel like sinful I feel that I'm now asking questions I wouldn't otherwise ask but they've invited this entire conversation and by the way I just want to make this clear because then some people say but Charlie they're totally qualified hold on every analysis that we have of similar quota based affirmative action programs always results in the lowering of Standards

The "bad people" he spoke about was himself in this scenario.  I don't know if his claim is correct regarding the results of these policies. I would need way more evidence such a policy is good for me to believe what he said was evil. I don't think it is intellectually honest to insist his words were so terrible and should be condemned totally while also maintaining context doesn't matter. I do know people such as Thomas Sowell has been saying the same thing for years before Charlie Kirk was born.  Charlie Kirk greatly respected Sowell and used and recommended his work.   Clearly, if black people can share the same opinion on these types of policies, there could be more to it then someone simply being hateful or racist.  I heard there once was a dream about people being judged by "the content of Character" not the "color of skin". This seems difficult if not impossible to achieve if there are mandatory skin color requirements. I don't think Charlie Kirk was a Nazi and I don't think he was actually hateful but as with anything I could be wrong-

In a follow-up post I will give a break down of my interaction with a "discernment ministry" and our clash over Charlie Kirk.

Sunday, November 2, 2025

When “Identity” Became Synonymous With “Trans”:

  A Misreading That Reveals a Bigger Linguistic (and Cultural) Shift 

While watching a YouTube critique of a message purported to be directly from God about who killed Charlie Kirk, it caught my attention immediately when the reviewer automatically interpreted the word identity in the original speaker’s sentence as referring only to trans‑identity. The original line was simply,

“I love him and those like him who are going through similar struggles with their identity.”

Clearly not the main point of the critique, and  although I agree with the overall criticism or "take-down" of the original video’s claims, the reviewer was wrong to assume that identity automatically equals trans. I admit the possibility that Troy, in his fake prophecy regarding who killed Charlie Kirk, was probably conflating the accused and his alleged trans lover, but he didn't claim the killer was trans.  Troy said the killer struggled with his identity. This is known as semantic narrowing, and in this particular case is indicative of a culture war that has been brewing for the past fifteen years or so.  

There are a myriad of ways one could struggle with identity, that doesn't mean trans. If the official story is true, the shooter was potentially a gay kid in Mormon Utah. Identity refers to the overall sense of self, not specifically gender identity.  Reports say the accused is dating a trans furry woman in Utah! His roommate is supposedly his lover, in other words. They could be married for all I know. 
Is the accused killer gay or is he straight? Is his lover a boy or a girl? Is a trans girl a real girl?  I would be more interested in knowing how he defines hate?  Nevertheless, maybe he struggled with how he saw himself so he became an assassin. 

Identity quote graphic: Identity refers to the overall sense of self, not specifically gender identity"

Why the Misreading Matters

  • Clarity of communication – When identity is automatically read  or heard as trans, speakers who mean 'personal struggles,'  'cultural background,' or 'professional role' risk being misunderstood.
  • Polarization – The shortcut can turn a neutral statement into a flashpoint, especially in comment sections where nuance is scarce.
  • Erasure of other identities – Reducing the term to one facet marginalizes the many ways people experience and define themselves.

It's Anecdotal but... 

Nobody in the whole wide world thought identity meant trans thirty years ago. Look how far we've come. Not only were trans not a threat when I was in high school, the concept didn't even exist in our psyche. We certainly didn't have furry.  An identity crisis didn't mean unsure about gender or sex or species .  Imagine that! 

I never saw any trans being bullied because I never knew it was a thing. Sure SNL made fun of people that were confused about Pat's gender, Pat didn't seem to mind. Sure Hollywood thought black men pretending to be women was funny, but the men didn't think they were women. Or a father pretending to be an old woman housekeeper to be with his kids after a divorce. (I think the point was "love will prevail" or something not "respect men that feel like old housekeepers"—Even if you catch them peeing standing up). Just didn't seem to be a big problem. 

 If I saw a man pretending to be a woman go into a female bathroom, I might worry he might be a threat. But they would probably be fine if they just never do anything creepy. If they use the toilet and leave no one would ever know. I promise you I have never once examined any dude in a bathroom and found them wanting, so to speak. Put a 1 in the comments if you have, The 1's are the ones I will hopefully avoid! 

My whole damn life, everyone seemed to know their own gender and everyone else seemed to believe them. Sure kids made fun of each other for their clothes or having unpopular hobbies.  Perhaps even about being stupid, smelly, short, ugly...Stuff like that. I don't remember a single time a kid was upset for being misgendered. Being misgendered was when a kid thought a guy was a girl because their hair was too long or something stereo-typically girl like or vice versa, Then they would apologize. 
It wasn't about calling out the fakes after them demanding we respect that they tell us they are fakes all the time. 

 As far as I actually know 90% of every kid I actually knew were actually the opposite sex from what I thought they were, They must have been good at pretending. We didn't have a word like trans — so we would know that it is fake while having to pretend it is real.  
 We also didn't have men in girl sports because we didn't have girl sports. We had girls in sports, and they sucked, but we put up with it.  They didn't seem to know they sucked, or they were having fun and didn't care. No I am just kidding there was softball­ —boys didn't play that.

Saturday, August 9, 2025

The Day I Stopped Mistaking Confusion for Connection

When Reconnection Feels More Like a Riddle Than a Reunion


“Walk a mile in another one’s shoes… or pretend to on ChatGPT.”

Friday, September 13, 2019

Straight Pride- Straight Up Satire

A Straight Pride Parade held in Boston on August 31st, 2019 by an promotion calling itself Super Happy Fun America sparked controversy and protests. The most semi-coherent and widely spouted argument against the event is that straight people are not marginalized or oppressed so they "do not need a parade". I do not know when it became necessary to be oppressed to celebrate anything or have a parade. I know very little about the promotion or what is really in the founders hearts and minds but I would easily concede it could meet the definition of a "troll" event, in the online vernacular. More importantly and to the point though, it is clearly satirical.
Satire- trenchant wit, irony or sarcasm used to expose and discredit vice or folly. (Merriam-Webster)
One may argue it is mean to make light of the struggle certain people have experienced for being abnormal, which is a completely reasonable response. However, I think the "folly" this event exposes is the completely unreasonable response it actually receives.  First we have a president of a college, Lee Pelton, Calling it "a perversion". Is the irony lost?  What is it "perverting"?  The meaning and purpose of a parade?  Free Speech?  Clearly it is not perverting the design and purpose for sex.  In order to argue against people celebrating something so mundane in fact, people seem to have to impute the motive of hate to everyone involved.  I saw several live-streams where protestors take to calling everyone there for the parade a "Nazi", even people just there to report.  Then they start chanting, "Hate speech is not free speech", and "Boston hates you." All this in the name of "tolerance and diversity".    There is no shortage of clear examples of this complete and utter "folly" in America and the rest of the world today.  Speech is Speech .  Expression is Expression. There is good reason these should remain free.

Tuesday, November 1, 2016

My Boss Called ME Fat!

He’s not actually my “boss” per se, he is the owner of the company I work for and I rarely ever see him.  And truth be told, he did not really just call me fat.  He asked me if I was putting on weight.  He said I looked forty pounds heavier then the last time he saw me.  He told me I was too young to be putting on that kind of weight, and that it was not good.  He asked me what is going on.  He did not care if I was offended, he may have even been genuinely concerned for me but it was blunt and matter of fact.
I, of course knew already, I needed to make a change.  The year before I made a new years resolution to not buy anything out of the vending machines at work for a year.  Before that I was buying at least a twenty once soda every day.  I had made that goal but I would still go out to eat and binge on sweet carbonated beverages at least two or three days a week.  Just after the new year, exercise and diet came up in a sermon.  The speaker specifically hit on how he had to give up pop.  I was already feeling bad because I could not physically keep up with my nephew at all anymore.  I was also embarrassed that I drank more pop then the kids.  The weekend before this conversation I joined a site called exercise friends, I also had a dream in which I was ashamed and lying about how much more I was eating then everyone else.  But this was the final straw.  I bought a scale went on a calorie restrictive diet, quit drinking pop, and started exercising every day.  I do not really consider this particular incident love but as much as I hate to admit it, his blunt question and comment was ultimately helpful to me.

Wednesday, December 31, 2014

A Lesson in Brutal Honesty From the World of MMA

Another one for the “tough love” category for sure.  The above video is a sensationalized edited* version of a conversation that took place at Joe Rogan’s studio for  The Fighter and the Kid podcast.  In essence it is Joe telling his friend Brendan Schaub, a mixed martial artist in the UFC heavy-weight division, that he does not think he should keep fighting.  He tells him he is not good enough to become a champion and the risk is no longer worth it.  This was recorded two days after Brendan’s loss to Travis Browne at UFC 181.  The reason I re-post it here is not really to speak to the point of whether or not Joe’s specific points are correct but because it is an example of someone speaking a hard message to a friend out of love.  A lot of people criticize not that Joe spoke his heart so to speak, but that he did it in a public setting.  In a follow-up recording about how he felt about delivering such a message to his friend, Joe Rogan actually said he would probably agree.   (Joe Rogan explains Brendan Schaub comments)  Brendan also talks in a follow-up recording about what was going on with him while this was happening and immediately following.  (Brendan Schaub responds to Joe Rogan) He deserves respect for listening to what Rogan had to say whether he takes the advise or not.  Since this was streamed live as it was being recorded he was receiving advise via texts from friends and family to not take it and to leave.  It shows a great deal of emotional intelligence for him to be willing to sit through what would feel like a brutal beating of a different kind. 
I believe we all need friends willing to do this but we most often avoid it.  What experiences have you had in either receiving or giving a brutally honest message to someone you love?
*Click here for the Full Version of the Podcast

Saturday, September 13, 2014

“IT’S NO BIG DEAL!” (How to Comfort Part 3)

A Christian college student meets a fellow student that is obviously in some sort of distress and wanting to talk about it.  In the course of being willing to lend an ear and provide comfort, she discovers the reason this girl is upset is because her boyfriend is, as she says, “being a jerk to me, just because I had a one night stand”.  Obviously not everyone agrees that a one night stand is “no big deal” as is implicit by such a protestation.  In trying to care, the Christian was put in the awkward situation of trying to comfort someone she disagrees with.  In order to comfort, if she says nothing about her own views of one night stands, she is automatically forced into a situation of having to agree with her.  If she states her own belief she runs the risk of being thought judgmental.  She could be very judgmental but disagreement does not prove this is the case.  The anguish this young woman was feeling was real regardless of whether or not she deserved the anguish because she brought it on her self.  How do you help someone in such a situation?  Of course there is not a simple answer for every case but I suggested perhaps it might be tactful to simply ask for permission to speak ones own mind.  If permission was granted she could say, “I believe your boyfriend has every right to be upset.  A one night stand with someone else clearly was a serious breach in your relationship.  Of course I am a Christian so I believe sex is part of a sacred union to be enjoyed within marriage.  Now is an excellent time to repent.”  Comforting?  Loving?  Offensive?  Is this the only way to go about it?  She could possibly ask penetrating questions, “Why do you believe a one night stand is no big deal?”  “Why shouldn’t your boyfriend be upset?”  “How do you feel when someone betrays your trust?”

In the course of trying to comfort someone, have you ever been put in the position of being expected to agree with something you fundamentally disagree with?  How did you handle it?  How should you have handled it (if you wish you handled it differently)?